"Life does not accommodate you, it shatters you. Every seed destroys its container or else there would be no fruition."
Lama’s 18 Rules for Living
Dalai Lama’s 18 Rules for Living
1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it….
"Hiding your hurt only intensifies it. Problems grow in the dark and only become bigger and bigger, but when exposed to the light of truth, they shrink. You are only as sick as your secrets. So take off your mask, stop pretending you’re perfect and walk into freedom."
Fear is not who you are underneath your facade.
Fear is not the real you that you must somehow fix or improve or overcome.
Fear is a very useful signal along the path to freedom.
The stronger the fear, the closer you are to what you are seeking.
If you want to stay “safe” and stuck where you are, fear tells you to stop what you are doing.
But if you want to be free, fear lets you know you are on the right track.
It is a signal to keep moving forward.”
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.
No apologies or excuses.
No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.
It is an amazing journey.
And you alone are responsible for the quality of it.
This is the day your life really begins.”
“It’s not how we fall.
It’s how we get back up again.”
Patrick Ness
Slipping and falling is a natural part of existence.
It’s a part of being human.
You aren’t defined by the number of mistakes you make.
You’re defined by how you act in response to them.
By what you choose to take away from each experience.
Mistakes always have something to teach us.
Each fall is an opportunity for growth.
Each slip provides us with knowledge to move forward.
Don’t allow your struggles to overshadow your ability to overcome them.
You are stronger than you know.
Don’t give up.
Don’t lose hope.
Choose to stand up.
Choose to keep fighting.
Patrick Ness
Slipping and falling is a natural part of existence.
It’s a part of being human.
You aren’t defined by the number of mistakes you make.
You’re defined by how you act in response to them.
By what you choose to take away from each experience.
Mistakes always have something to teach us.
Each fall is an opportunity for growth.
Each slip provides us with knowledge to move forward.
Don’t allow your struggles to overshadow your ability to overcome them.
You are stronger than you know.
Don’t give up.
Don’t lose hope.
Choose to stand up.
Choose to keep fighting.
Your scars are nothing to be ashamed of.
They do not define you.
They are only a part of your story.
Scars are evidence of life.
Evidence of your ability to heal.
Evidence that you survived.
“He who fights, can lose.
"Liberated from the grip of egoism, like the
moon (after the eclipse), full, ever blissful, self-luminous, one
attains one’s essence."
"The sign of intelligence is that you are
constantly wondering. Idiots are always dead sure about every damn thing
they are doing in their life."
They do not define you.
They are only a part of your story.
Scars are evidence of life.
Evidence of your ability to heal.
Evidence that you survived.
“He who fights, can lose.
He who doesn’t fight, has already lost.”
Bertolt Brecht
You never know until you try.
Don’t quit before you have given yourself a fighting chance.
Don’t give up on your pursuit of happiness.
Persistence and patience can break any chain.
Determination and hope can illuminate any darkness.
Freedom is yours for the taking.
Fight because you can.
Fight because you must.
Fight because you are worth fighting for.
Bertolt Brecht
You never know until you try.
Don’t quit before you have given yourself a fighting chance.
Don’t give up on your pursuit of happiness.
Persistence and patience can break any chain.
Determination and hope can illuminate any darkness.
Freedom is yours for the taking.
Fight because you can.
Fight because you must.
Fight because you are worth fighting for.
Responsibility to yourself means honoring who you are.
Valuing your feelings, your thoughts, and your voice.
It means respecting your body.
Refusing to treat it as a commodity with which to purchase superficial validation and affection.
Responsibility to yourself means having faith in yourself and your abilities.
Refusing to sell yourself short.
Believing in the beauty of your dreams and giving yourself the chance to make them come true.
Responsibility to yourself is nourishing your body and soul.
Surrounding yourself with people who positively impact your life.
Doing what you love, despite outside opinions.
Following your heart.
Share some of the love you give so willingly to others, with yourself.
You are deserving of compassion and kindness.
You are deserving of love.
No exceptions.
Always.
“Do something you fear.
Not to conquer the fear.
Not to accomplish a task.
But to familiarize yourself with the processes with which fear protects itself.
To demystify it.
Because when we come to that compassionate awareness that is not afraid of the fear,
We are able to embrace it.
Allowing us to heal the wounds of our inner child and begin to live the life we’ve always wanted to live.”
To find love, you first have to find it within yourself.
"You know when you find it
In your darkest hour, you strike gold
A thought clicks, not the be-all end-all
Just another lesson learned"
Valuing your feelings, your thoughts, and your voice.
It means respecting your body.
Refusing to treat it as a commodity with which to purchase superficial validation and affection.
Responsibility to yourself means having faith in yourself and your abilities.
Refusing to sell yourself short.
Believing in the beauty of your dreams and giving yourself the chance to make them come true.
Responsibility to yourself is nourishing your body and soul.
Surrounding yourself with people who positively impact your life.
Doing what you love, despite outside opinions.
Following your heart.
Share some of the love you give so willingly to others, with yourself.
You are deserving of compassion and kindness.
You are deserving of love.
No exceptions.
Always.
“Do something you fear.
Not to conquer the fear.
Not to accomplish a task.
But to familiarize yourself with the processes with which fear protects itself.
To demystify it.
Because when we come to that compassionate awareness that is not afraid of the fear,
We are able to embrace it.
Allowing us to heal the wounds of our inner child and begin to live the life we’ve always wanted to live.”
The world around you is like a mirror, reflecting back to you what you put in.
The universe responds lovingly to you when you love yourself.
Know that your hesitancy to love yourself did not appear out of nowhere.
Whether it was mirrored to you by society, your parents, or a partner, it is a thought process you have learned.
And just as you were taught, you can be untaught.
You can relearn love.
You can relearn self-acceptance.
Know that you are not alone in the way you feel.
Know that you are intricately connected to everyone and everything.
Be open to love.
And be open to the gifts it can bring you.
Embrace your connection to the universe.
Embrace life.
Celebrate who you are.
The universe responds lovingly to you when you love yourself.
Know that your hesitancy to love yourself did not appear out of nowhere.
Whether it was mirrored to you by society, your parents, or a partner, it is a thought process you have learned.
And just as you were taught, you can be untaught.
You can relearn love.
You can relearn self-acceptance.
Know that you are not alone in the way you feel.
Know that you are intricately connected to everyone and everything.
Be open to love.
And be open to the gifts it can bring you.
Embrace your connection to the universe.
Embrace life.
Celebrate who you are.
In your darkest hour, you strike gold
A thought clicks, not the be-all end-all
Just another lesson learned"
Adhyatma Upanishad
Jaggi Vasudev
When we’re overwhelmed, we feel weighed down.
All the tasks that need to be completed feel “too much”.tell ourselves, “I can’t do it”, and thus do nothing.
We keep putting off what needs to be done, and as a result, the
anxiety, pressure, and stress build, piling upon themselves until we
break.
Overcoming the feeling of being overwhelmed starts with one small step at a time.
Journal.
Write about what is bothering you.
Write about what is weighing you down.
Make a list.
Write out what needs to get done.
One task at a time.
Cross off each as you go.
You’ll feel a small weight lifted each time you take a step forward.
And you’ll find that what once seemed anxiety provoking and complicated, is actually quite easy and simple.
Acknowledge feeling overwhelmed.
Denying the pull of life and its tasks doesn’t remove stress—it compounds it.
Surrendering to the simple truths, even the simple truth of what you’re feeling, will set you free.
Overcoming the feeling of being overwhelmed starts with one small step at a time.
Journal.
Write about what is bothering you.
Write about what is weighing you down.
Make a list.
Write out what needs to get done.
One task at a time.
Cross off each as you go.
You’ll feel a small weight lifted each time you take a step forward.
And you’ll find that what once seemed anxiety provoking and complicated, is actually quite easy and simple.
Acknowledge feeling overwhelmed.
Denying the pull of life and its tasks doesn’t remove stress—it compounds it.
Surrendering to the simple truths, even the simple truth of what you’re feeling, will set you free.
